COMMUNICATING AS A COUPLE
13 August 2012
Communicating within a relationship can be complex, requiring both parties to work hard and diligently to be effective communicators with the other in the relationship through trial, error, and some helpful advice. Interpersonal communication can assist you as couples to grow stronger and develop emotional support systems for one another as your relationship continues to grow over time. Understanding how you can interact in a manner that is mutually supporting and generates reactions that you want to occur in order to keep the other partner happy and affirm the information that you are trying to give to each other. You must be able to identify the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions. Through the identification of these barriers, couples can keep the channels of communication open between one another and continue to work through problems before the develop into something that will cause the relationship to fail. Understanding how to identify the barriers are the most important factors to creating interpersonal interactions that will allow the relationship to continue to grow through the course of a lifetime. Encouraging one another as you discover that there is a barrier that is affecting the communication process will assist in the growth of the relationship to create a positive environment for interaction and emotional growth.
Understanding one another while communicating is important and understand how you are not communicating is even more important to the communication process between each other as well. Silencing or refusing to communicate between one another can create areas of discomfort between the two in the communication process. By not engaging in the communication process you are telling your partner that the information they are sharing with you is not important to you or that you do not care what they are saying. In doing this you can create long term problems that can aggravate the situation of communicating and barriers that will continue to hurt your relationship until you are able to work through them. Placating or soothing the other partner is also a barrier in the communication process. When the information that this passed is not what you want to hear, or you are do not agree with what is said, you should speak up and not let that information just be in a state that you agree to because you do not want an argument to ensue. By doing this you can create a barrier by allowing your partner to see that you are in line with the decision that is being made, or that you have no input on the subject that is being discussed. This can create issues later on in the relationship, when something does not go the way that one of you thought it should, but let it happen because you did not what to input that information into the conversation because you did not what to upset the other person in the relationship with you.
Playing games is also something that should be avoided as it can cause the relationship to self-destruct over time. Playing games can be as simple as laying blame on the other person in the relationship by using them as the reason for what went wrong during the course of the day or during a certain incident. Using them as the source or cause of a problem even though they have no remote cause to the problem can cause the relationship to strain over time or to assume that everything that person does something; something else will occur that you are not happy with that outcome. Assessing their personal communications and improving their communication competencies. Communicating between one another can have certain issues that must be worked through such as language and being responsible to the other partner. Working together you can help increase your personal self in the process through love and communication. This can create areas that will increase the willingness to talk to one another through the process and create...
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